YOUR COMFORT ZONE IS DANGEROUS
Ohhhh here we go again… talking about reaching new heights in life. You know that I CANNOT keep my mouth shut when it comes to mindset + valuable lessons I’ve learned.
Picture me like that friend you always call for advice when you’re in a crisis or just need some help, you know? I’m that human guinea pig that takes risks, tries everything and kind of goes for it to find solutions for a fulfilling life.
Welcome to THE DANGER ZONE.
Dangerous AF. Hazardous. Poisonous. Unproductive and quite boring TBH.
This danger zone is called your COMFORT ZONE.
Ever heard of it?
I mean… who doesn’t love feeling comfortable in life?
Not having to do something that makes your stomach churn is quite a cozy feeling and it avoids potential bad feelings. Sounds pretty damn nice, right?
I’m going to start this by sharing a few of my favorite quotes about stepping outside of your comfort zone:
“You are only confined by the walls you build yourself.”
“A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there.”
“The comfort zone is the great enemy to creativity.”
“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” - Gandhi
“Great people do things before they are ready.” - Amy Poehler
If you are doing the same thing everyday. Then you will get the same results.
If you are unhappy with where you are in life, but continue with the same habits, nothing will ever change.
You have a couple of choices in life.
To accept your life as it is.
To accept that life will only change if you make it happen.
I remind myself of those two things every single day because it is the truth!
If you don’t have something in life, it’s because you haven’t gone after it.
If you haven’t gone after it, it’s either because you are afraid, don’t have a plan, haven’t tried hard enough or are afraid. Yes, I purposely repeated myself.
The way I see it is that life is short.
As I always say, we live and we die. That is 100% a fact. We can either continue life as it currently is OR if we really want something, we can go after it.
The problem is that so many of us allow our exterior circumstances and our mindset dictate our future.
We listen to the people around us.
We BELIEVE the lies we tell ourselves.
I have a question for you:
Is “realistic” a way to live?
If life was supposed to be “realistic” would you have electricity, the ability to drive a car, an airplane to take you to new destinations, a cell phone, a computer or the internet?
If “realistic” is what reality should look like, then we are all fucked.
Those who live in their comfort zone, live there because of FEAR.
Because of the unknown.
Something else that I ALWAYS say is that the unknown is present whether you live in your comfort zone or not.
You cannot avoid the unknown by living in your comfort zone, right?
You can’t predict what is going to happen tomorrow.
You can’t predict whether or not you will have a job this afternoon.
You can’t predict your health in a year from now.
If you can, I suggest turning that into a career…
Your comfort zone limits you from reaching your true potential. From experiencing a fulfilling life. Why live a life that is “fine,” when you can live a life that you love?
Easier said than done… I know.
But, that’s because going after what you truly want requires work. It requires you to get out of your comfort zone EVERY DAY. It’s hard work. It’s scary work. It’s uncomfortable.
You don’t know what is going to happen.
Have you ever considered that maybe good opportunities that can come from it?
That if we push ourselves to move outside of our comfort zone, it might actually open doors to new possibilities? Exciting possibilities?
The sad part is that we grow up fearful. Fearful of loss. Fearful of not having a job. Fearful of failure. We are taught that failing is bad. That we cannot fail.
Now, what if going outside of your comfort zone leads to failure? Leads to you losing your job? Leads to something unexpected?
Well, didn’t I just say before that avoiding the unknown doesn’t keep you “safe” regardless? You still can’t predict anything.
You can still fail!
…and who started this whole thing that failure is bad?
Making the same mistake over and over is BAD. But failing is almost better than succeeding. If we don’t fail, then we don’t learn. We don’t grow. We cannot get ahead!
When you are in your comfort zone, you are in the same routine. Decisions are easier. Life is pretty consistent, right?
…but are you truly happy?
What I’m telling you is that your comfort zone will not help get you closer to what you ACTUALLY want in life.
If you are happy with where you are right now in life, then I seriously congratulate you. It takes hard work.
…and if you aren’t ready to make a change, that is ok. I’m not here to judge or tell you what to do. I’m just sharing what I’ve learned from experience.
Listen, I dropped out of college at 19 years old, moved to Miami Beach at 20, started a marketing agency at 20 years old without a college degree and have a self care brand. I did this all on my own. It was scary. I took a lot of risks. I’ve failed. I get the fear.
I notice that a lot of people deny what they want in life. They hold themselves back.
It’s the fear that holds them back. It’s what we are told by the ones we love and trust that hold us back as terrible as that sounds. It’s because the ones we love and trust “think” that they are looking out for us, ok?
I know that deep down, we all have something that we REALLY want. We may not know right in this very moment, but it’s there.
Think back to when you were a kid and what you wanted to be when you grew up. Or one of my favorite tricks to find out what you really want is to start paying attention to what you are thinking about when you are day dreaming.
That will tell you.
We stay in our comfort zone ( well, I don’t ) because of the story we play in our minds.
Ready for the truth?
There is NO SUCH THING AS A COMFORT ZONE.
Because life is unpredictable.
So, you have a couple of choices.
Both options are tough.
You can stay within your comfort zone and wish for something more.
Or, you can take a few risks that make you uncomfortable to actually make what you want happen.
If you have an idea or if you can imagine something, then it is possible.
Take a look at your life. Evaluate.
Are you happy?
Do you want more?
Do you want to be “content?”
Are you settling?
If you could do anything in the world what would it be? How can you get there?
Write a plan. Execute. Take action every day.
…and keep in mind that there is NEVER going to be a right time.
You’ll be surprised by what happens. Think of it as an adventure. As long as life is uncertain, you might as well take the route that leads you closer to what you actually want.
…because those who take that route, pursue the hell out of it and are resilient are the ones who you see living the life they love.
STOP telling yourself it is unrealistic. Or that they are lucky. Or that they are smarter.
If I did that I wouldn’t be where I am today. Working for myself. Living on the beach. Traveling all the time. In a happy relationship. Learn how to set yourself up for success.
Not everyone has the same dream.
Going after your dreams can be whatever it is that you want, got it? It doesn’t have to be materialistic or extreme.
It can be starting a family. It can be moving to a new house. It can be taking that trip you’ve been thinking about for years. It can be starting a business. It can be quitting your job and backpacking across Europe.
I don’t know what that dream is that you have.
What I know is that living in your comfort zone only wastes time & it wastes your life.
You don’t need to pick up and quit your job. There are ways to push yourself a little bit more each day to get to the next level in life.
Come up with a plan.
Because if you don’t… well, keep in mind that one day we will all be on our death bed. Will you regret anything?