YOU NEED TO TAKE THAT RISK
YOU ASK, I ANSWER
I want you to read these posts as advice from your BFF
…because honestly, sometimes I feel like I’m talking to my BFF when I’m writing my blogs for you! & I love it.
Let’s talk about risks!
A LOT of us don’t want to take risks because of fear. Fear of failure, fear of the “what if,” just fear and different types of fear. Different reasonings as to why we shouldn’t do something and excuses, ok?
But, here’s the thing…
They say, no risk, no reward, right?
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ARE YOU CONSIDERING TAKING A RISK?
LET ME HELP YOU OUT
I had a friend call me and ask for advice.
She wants to make a big move in her life. I’ve talked about her before on my blog because she is a great example!
My friend keeps going back and forth on whether or not she should make the move. By move, I literally mean… moving to a new city.
She also wants to start a blog and wanted it launched in back in April. The problem is that she continuously has excuses as to why she can’t launch the blog.
Yet, she has SO much potential, such capabilities and insightful information that I can’t understand her hesitation and fear. Because when I talk to her and spend time with her, you can tell she is BEYOND knowledgable. I would never doubt her success.
RISKING IT ALL
What I have realized with my friend is that she is FEARFUL.
Totally normal. Not judging, but trying to help her get to the bottom of why she isn’t taking ACTION, you know?
This is something that we have chatted about many times over the phone AND in person. It comes down to the fear of being judged. The risk. You know, the “what if?”
The what if is the unknown, ok?
No one likes the unknown.
But you have to go into the unknown in order to see if something is right for you or not.
This can apply to business, your personal life and even relationships.
I have written posts and done podcasts about your gut feeling and following your intuition. My entire mission is self care for mental health to help you live a fulfilling life, right?
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON’T TAKE THE RISK
Well, I have to tell you that you’re taking a risk everyday by not taking the risk that your gut feeling is trying to tell you.
Does that make sense?
You’re risking what you really want by settling, ok?
This is what I told her BTW.
By not making the move. By not starting her blog. By not taking action and “waiting and seeing,” she is delaying not only her success rate, but more importantly her happiness.
Will it be hard at first? Will there be a lot of obstacles? 100%.
But when I talk to her, this is all we talk about. So, you know what she wants to do, right? You can tell it’s her PASSION!
WHAT IF YOU TAKE ACTION?
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU TAKE THE RISK
LET ME LET YOU IN ON A LITTLE SECRET
You can tell what you want to do by what you are always talking about.
AND - taking action is the hardest part. That’s normal as well.
But, what you need to consider is that by CHOOSING TO NOT take the risk, you are risking it all.
Everything is unknown in life.
Nothing is guaranteed.
This comes from experience. When I have an idea or something that I want to do, I act on it. Because as I get older ( and I know I’m only 25 ), I see how fast the hours, the days, the weeks, the months and the years are going by.
I personally have started like 4 - 5 blogs in the last 5 years and here I am now finally doing it. I started this 6 months ago.
Imagine if I started 5 years ago like my gut feeling told me to do?
Now that I’ve started, I have nights where I can’t sleep because I’m so excited to record a podcast or write a post or read my emails and DM’s from you guys.
This is just the beginning for me. But it’s my passion. So, even if I don’t get 10K likes right away on an Instagram post, I know that i have to keep pushing because it feels right, got it?
THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU TAKE ACTION!
Your life starts to manifest into what you want!
I started my blog on January 21, 2019. I was scared. BTW, I started January 21st because I turned 25 January 22nd. I was like, “OMG I can’t look back and be like, why didn’t I start this blog at 24?”
So, I took the entire day to work on this brand so that I could say that I started it at 24.
I’m grateful I did.
AFTER YOU TAKE THE RISK
WHAT HAPPENS NEXT
It was scary TBH. You wonder a lot. You don’t know what’s going to happen, you know?
But the thing is that after that initial action, you can tell if it feels good for you or not.
I get bored VERY easily. I’m still excited 6 months later.
I TOOK THE RISK!!!
WHAT ABOUT SECURITY AFTER THE RISK?
PLANNING FOR THE BEST
Something that my friend is REALLY struggling with is that when she FINALLY makes the big move ( to a new city ), she can’t just do blogging full time, right?
Because she needs to make money and support herself! She can’t just move cities without an income, k?
Guys, sometimes you have to do what you don’t want to do, to get what you want.
Meaning, get a job.
When I first moved to Florida to start my own business, I didn’t just start my own business. I had bills to pay and rent like everyone else.
I worked at boutique. Was that ideal for me long term? No. But, it’s what I had to do because I had a long term plan! & I needed money in the meantime.
So, this is the exact advice that I tell my friend:
“Get any job that can support you and then come home and work on your blog.”
“But what if I don’t like that job?”
THAT’S NOT THE POINT!
The point is to have some source of income while you are building up what you want!
These things don’t happen overnight.
ARE YOU ACTUALLY WILLING TO PUT IN THE WORK?
YOU HAVE TO BE READY
You have to be willing to take the risk.
You have to be willing to do what makes you uncomfortable.
You have to be willing to get knocked down.
You have to be willing to find solutions to obstacles.
You have to realize that everything is temporary.
That job you get while you are building your dream CAREER is temporary.
Your long term goal IS NOT temporary. You are trying to create something permanent!
So, if you don’t take the risk, you’ll spend the next several moths or years or your life wondering, “what if?”
What would happen if I had taken that risk?
What if I failed?
What if I succeeded?
What if I had to move back and it didn’t work out?
But the funny thing is that people who are AFRAID to take risks are already wondering “what if” in their own life!
WITHOUT TAKING A RISK.
What if I have to work this job the rest of my life?
What if I have to live in this city the rest of my life?
What if I feel like how I am feeling today in 5 years?
What if is inevitable.
You need to take the risk.
Because if you don’t, you’ll wonder “what if” regardless.
Some risks are more difficult than others. Something that really helped me to take the risk was by watching motivational videos on YouTube and listening podcasts.
They worked for me.
One of my favorite motivational videos on YouTube is just a compilation of speeches! You can click here to listen!
These videos helped me to take action and hear new perspectives. It kind of gave me that inspiration. Like anything is possible type of inspiration.
BE CAREFUL WHO YOU LISTEN TO
THIS IS NECESSARY WHEN CONSIDERING TAKING A RISK
Sometimes although these people care, our family and friends create that fear. Not intentionally. Usually with good intentions to protect you.
But, I had friends tell me when I was in college that if I drop out I probably will struggle to get a job, I might end up back in school in my 30’s and it will be almost impossible to own a business.
I did exactly what I set out to do. I did what my friends said I probably couldn’t do. I believed in myself. It’s not easy.
You MUST rely on yourself when it comes to taking risks and begin to believe in you.
I know that my friends and family care and cared at the time. My family was very supportive.
But it really comes down to your mentality.
Stop asking “what if.” That’s when you can take action.
I’m a firm believer that life is short. That’s a fact. What do we have to lose by trying something?
This is literally what I tell and told my friend.
So what if it doesn’t work out? You know that you tried. You can always move back home. You can always pursue another job or career. Life is limitless if you allow it to be. It’s mindset.
What if it does work out?
What if it takes you 3 years?
But what if in 10 years you are living the life you talk about everyday?
Would it be worth it?
I’m not telling you to go and quit your job. I’m telling you to come up with a plan and take action.
Take the risk.
You’ll come across struggles.
Whenever you go after something you’re passionate about, it’s easier in a way, but more difficult because it’s less security sometimes.
Depending on what that risk is of course. But, a risk is a risk.
This might not apply to a new career path for you. You might be reading this because you’re unsure whether or not you should start or end a relationship, right?
Listen to your intuition, come up with a plan, stop talking and start doing.