THIS IS WHY YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT SOMEONE IS GOING THROUGH
LET’S START WITH PERSPECTIVE
As I sit here writing this post, I am right in the middle of a nasty panic attack.
My throat feels like it’s closing, my body is heating up, my heart is racing and it feels as if I cannot breathe.
If you just met me, you would never know that I suffer from severe anxiety.
One of my best skills is hiding it to the public.
About two hours ago, I was on my way to an event and I turned around. I canceled last minute and came home a complete mess.
On the drive home, I was thinking about who I really am as a person and who I want to be.
I realized that I am at a point in my life where I love and accept myself for who I am, but that doesn’t mean that those around me will accept that.
THE REALITY IS THAT…
I’m entirely introverted
Events aren’t my thing
You probably won’t see me at happy hour
This is me opening up and being entirely vulnerable.
WHAT MAKES ME HAPPY IS…
Traveling + exploring new places
Running on the beach
Helping people in need
Volunteering my time
Meeting new people and hearing their stories
Spending time with family and my boyfriend
Not only is that what makes me happy, it is what makes me feel fulfilled and it is who I am. It’s not to say that my amazing friends don’t matter. They do. I am just a “hey come over and let’s just chill” type of girl.
Today I realized that I truly accept myself for me, and that not everyone will support me.
The purpose of this post is not just to give you an inside look into my life, but to share perspective.
NEVER MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
When I canceled the event, I told them that I had a migraine. I totally suffer from migraines and it sucks, but I didn’t have one today. The truth is that I was drained. Because I am so introverted, the drive there took everything out of me.
All of this combined resulted in a full blown panic attack.
But I’m grateful.
I’m grateful that in moments like this, I have a platform that I can share my struggle and how I overcome challenges in hopes that someone gains the inspiration they need.
We aren’t all the same.
We all go through difficult times.
We all have our own struggles.
The people hosting the event see me as an upbeat, bubbly and “has it all together” type of woman.
…and I kind of do. But, I kind of don’t at times.
While they received that text and were bummed I wouldn’t make it, they didn’t know that I had tears coming down my face the entire drive back.
They didn’t know that I was having severe anxiety dealing with my own personal struggles that had nothing to do with them!
As humans, we are so quick to assume. Quick to assume that we know someone, what they are going through and their intentions.
DON’T TAKE EVERYTHING PERSONALLY
My intentions were never to make anyone feel bad, but it’s so common to jump to conclusions and take things personally.
If someone approaches you ( a friend, a random person, a loved one, etc… ) with an attitude or cancels on you for whatever reason, you have to keep in mind that you never know what they might be going through.
Have you ever been in a situation where someone was just rude to you for no reason?
Have you ever been in a situation where someone picked on you for no reason?
Have you ever been in a situation where you were ignored?
NOW, I WANT YOU TO THINK…
Have you ever taken a step back in those moments and considered that the reaction you are receiving is not personal?
I am not condoning any form of disrespect and never will. Let’s make that clear.
What I want you to understand is that not everything is always as it seems on the outside. We need to stop ourselves from assuming the worst or immediately jumping to the negative.
AKA… taking it personally.
Instead, I want to encourage everyone to work on communication.
COMMUNICATION IS KEY
As I sit here writing this, with my panic attack, I am trying to figure out the best way to empower you for the next time you find yourself in this scenario.
What I mean is… wondering… what TF is going on with someone?!
THINK ABOUT THIS…
These are the three key components to happy and healthy relationships + a happy and healthy life.
There will be times when someone doesn’t feel like communicating in the moment. We can’t control what other people think, say and do.
We can ONLY control ourselves. We can learn to love and accept ourselves and those around us.
AND, when we feel we are being mistreated, we can learn to communicate effectively to build a better community, support system and fulfilling life.
Next time you face a situation where you might be quick to jump to assumptions, take that step back and understand that you never know what someone is going through.
Keep my story in mind.
I was supposed to be at this event, I canceled, came up with an excuse, but what the girls didn’t know was that I was hurting internally. Not because of them, but because of my own personal reasons.
You just never know, ok?
Keep communication, love and acceptance in mind.
Never accept less than you deserve.
…and don’t forget to pause before analyzing a situation.