HOW TO SHIFT YOUR MINDSET
LET’S TALK ABOUT PERSPECTIVE
THE KEY TO SHIFTING YOUR MINDSET
Life is so crazy, isn’t it? It’s like one minute we are stuck in some challenging situation not knowing if or how we can get out, and the next minute life is great.
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As you know, I started my brand as an anti-bullying campaign to prevent suicides. This is still my goal, however, I’ve made some shifts to accomplish that and more.
…for a specific reason…
The first thing you should understand is that bullying is more than just kids in school putting other kids down. Bullying also affects adults. It affects parents. It happens in the work place. Sometimes we even bully ourselves.
HAVE YOU EVER CONSIDERED THAT ONE?
PERSPECTIVE CAUSED A CHANGE IN MY BRAND + LIFE
HOW I SHIFTED MY MINDSET
I turned this into a self care and wellness brand because we can’t stop bullying. I can’t stand up in front of a large audience and say: “Hey, everyone! I’m Sydney and you should stop bullying because of the negative affect that it has on our mental health.”
I mean… I can, right?
But, will people actually listen?
The truth is that bullying occurs when we feel or someone feels insecure.
THAT IS WHY I MADE THE SHIFT IN MY BRAND.
I took a step back. Looked at the facts. Saw what WASN’T working and tried to figure out what would.
I want to SHIFT our society’s mindset, but in order to do that, I had to shift my mindset!
KEEP IN MIND WHILE READING: I am sharing with you one of the easiest ways to shift your mindset. I am just choosing to share this through a story. Apply this lesson to your life in whatever way works best for you! You may NOT be facing bullying, but at the end of the day, if you want to make a shift in your mindset ( despite the obstacle you might be facing ), the same rule applies.
ALSO: There are MANY ways to shift your mindset. This is just one.
OK, enough of me, let’s get to it.
HOW TO SHIFT YOUR MINDSET
PUTTING THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE
…before I dive into this, I want to share a story that helped me to put things in perspective!
Last night, Pedro and I were talking about bullying and I decided to go on Facebook and look someone up.
…because, why not?
This someone happened to be a girl that used to bully me as a kid.
She would call me fat, ugly, tell me that I wasn’t as good as her and that I was dumb. NOT TO MENTION, she was always uninviting me to birthday parties, which made me feel SO alone.
We were friends on and off ( for whatever reason ). We also had a lot of mutual friends. She also used to do this thing where she would turn them all against me.
NOT JUST ME. Every so often it would be someone else’s turn.
This impacted my self esteem, how I valued myself, how I thought of myself.
It resulted in attempts to starve myself. I considered suicide at the age of 12.
This girl would write hate notes to me.
She was super skinny, pretty, had friends, boyfriends and clearly some kind of an influence.
She really tried to make me feel like I couldn't be better than her. I wasn’t even trying to be better than her… LOL
But that’s not the point of this post.
The point is what happened last night.
When I looked her up on Facebook 15 years later.
This post was not written to judge or to put anyone down. This is simply to share perspective in life.
SO, I look her up on Facebook.
FIRST IMPRESSION: Not shocked to say the least.
She has put on a few pounds. Definitely a heavier girl today. What I found interested was that she shared so many articles shared and posted on about understanding eating disorders and body positivity.
It’s interesting to me because it’s something that I struggled with immensely growing up. I was told that I was FAT by her and others.
I felt sorry for her because clearly internally she is struggling.
I never wish anything bad upon anyone, including those who bullied me. It’s just interesting to see what’s going on internally. She really put it out there, you know?
So, while younger Sydney might have been traumatized by her behavior, older Sydney can see that she was clearly struggling. It shows today.
One of the ways to shift your mindset is by taking that step back and looking at all of the facts. Putting things in perspective. Making the CHOICE to shift how you look at people and situations.
( yes, I repeated this on purpose )
HOW TO MOVE FORWARD WITH A NEW MINDSET
PERSPECTIVE IS THE SIMPLEST TRICK IN THE BOOK
I don’t expect little kids who might be facing bullying to understand this. They are so young. I don’t expect them to understand how to shift their mindset and put life in perspective at that age.
That is why I’m hoping that the people reading this teach them AND take the advice for themselves.
Whether you are currently a parent, considering becoming a parent or hoping to be a parent in the future like us. Or even if you have little cousins or siblings. Anyone can benefit from this tip!
I know I am focusing a lot on bullying here, but sometimes we bully ourselves as adults. Sometimes we face bullying at work. Or even from friends & family.
Even if we aren’t facing bullying, we all have probably faced a time in life where we needed to make a change and shift our mindset, right?
The point of this is perspective.
Life is not always as it seems.
…but in the moment it can be difficult to see that!
What I experienced growing up affected my mental health. I suffered from an eating disorder. I considered suicide. I wasn’t thinking about shifting my mindset or putting life in perspective.
…and obviously this girl ( who bullied me ) was struggling as well, but in a different way.
I am NOT standing up for BULLIES. This post isn’t just about BULLYING.
This is an example of HOW WE CAN MAKE A CHANGE!
It starts with us. Change starts with us. With our mindset. With perspective.
It’s time for us to take action in our lives. Tackle obstacles in a different way. Think in terms of perspective. Take a different route. Focus on ourselves. Indulge in a little self care for our mental health so that we can adjust our perspective!
If you are struggling with anxiety, depression, stress or you’re just unhappy, you are more likely to act out OR take it all in. Bullying yourself, right?
Working on shifting our perspective will help us to understand each other better. To take better care of ourselves. To be more understanding and less harsh.
I don’t know what this girl ( the one who bullied me ) had going on in her life at that time, but I do know that when any form of bullying happens, it comes from within!
THINK ABOUT IT
When you are feeling amazing, you treat people nicely.
When you get angry, you might be more likely to take it out on people.
That’s horrible, but true.
What we MUST do in those moments is take a deeper look into what is ACTUALLY going on.
Everyone has their reasons as to why they might act out or feel like they need to make a shift in their mindset. In order to make that change, we need to take a deeper look within.
Perspective can lead to better self care, which leads to better mental health.
I think this whole anti-bullying thing isn’t working as well as it could. I think we need to learn to identify the source of the issue and work on it from there.
You have to be willing to make a change whether we are talking about bullying or another struggle you are facing and it isn’t going to be easy.
Is it easier for me to get super mad at Pedro and start a fight over a messy apartment? Yeah. But, wouldn’t it be better to sit down and talk about it and express my feelings?
It comes down to perspective, but ALSO self care.
That is how we can improve our mental health and get what we want in life. This what my entire brand is about.
FINAL PIECE OF ADVICE
I want to go back to how I started this blog. I feel sorry for this girl. She is clearly very unhappy and trying to work on herself, which is amazing.
I wrote this because I think it’s a good lesson.
A good lesson for us to try and understand and apply in our own lives. It’s a good lesson to share with others.
I hope you found this valuable!