THE POWER OF REMOVING TOXICITY
YOUR TIME IS EVERYTHING
Your time on this earth is precious. I’m sure you’ve heard that one before. Seriously though. Our time is limited and we might as well make the most out of it because at the end of the day, we are all going to the same place.
You know what I’m talking about and I’m going to keep it real.
Here’s the thing - Negative situations and toxic people aren’t going to benefit your life in any way, shape or form.
We’ve all had that job that we hated or that friend that just brought us down, right?
…and how amazing does it feel when you finally walk out of that job or distance yourself from that person? Sometimes it’s scary to be honest because it’s a change. Because we might be jobless or starting something new. Or it might be hard to stand up for yourself to that friend and get out.
BUT, when you do it, it’s almost like a breath of fresh air, or a weight has been lifted off of your shoulder, right?
Removing that negative energy gives you this feeling of freedom. Freedom to do what makes YOU happy.
So, one of my best friends hates her job. THAT’S WHERE THIS STORY BEGINS.
She is probably the friendliest and most outgoing person that I know. We were actually roommates in college at University of Arizona. She is gorgeous and she can sell anything.
She LOVES sales. She wants to create a brand that she is passionate about and sell the hell out of it. She isn’t lazy and she has ambition.
Ummm and might I add that she has amazing style.
Here’s the problem - she hates her job.
She is currently working as a receptionist at a plastic surgeons office. She is into health, wellness and thought working in this environment would help spark new ideas, teach her something new or even put her on the right path to figuring it out what she ACTUALLY wanted to do.
Totally normal! She is 24 years old.
Ready for this? The doctor told her not to speak to the patients. When she told me that I literally told her to quit. First I laughed. Then I suggested she quits.
She is so friendly and if anything, she could keep the patients coming back. She was receiving compliments from the patients!
Can we just pause for a second and think about this? She was told NOT to talk all day long. What kind of crap is that?
It’s crap that just isn’t the right fit for her. For some people it might be perfectly fine, but for her mental state and personality, it’s toxic. It mutes her strengths. It rids of her passion.
Life is all about experiences. Some good, some bad, but none that we should ever regret. Every situation is a learning lesson. Even the toxic ones.
Look - she took this job with the INTENTION of trying to figure out if this was the right path for her future career.
She was going to learn something. Either it was for her, maybe she would gain a new idea for a brand of her own OR she was going to realize that it just wasn’t her thing.
Ok, let’s get back to this story. So, we are talking on the phone the other day and she is telling me how miserable she is. The other women at the office are rude to her. She’s depressed and unhappy and living at home and can’t even find it within her to workout.
This girl is like the workout queen. She is so disciplined and into health/fitness and wellness as I mentioned, so for her to say this is SHOCKING. #imshook.
What does this tell you? Well, I’ll tell you exactly what I told her.
THE FIRST THING I SAID
…was obviously to quit, or look for a job in the meantime.
If something is making you THAT miserable, then that is where your energy goes! Into more misery. Toxic situations can bring out the worst in us and make us feel like we aren’t enough. You are.
If you can’t just quit your job right away, take a sick day and go interview! There are options.
THE SECOND THING I SAID
…was that she was obviously feeling down & depressed because she was in a situation that didn’t match who she was or her aspirations.
If you are an outgoing person, who loves to speak to people, a total extrovert, can you imagine how bad it must feel to be told not to speak all day long? To sit at a desk and just check people in?
It’s not a thing. It doesn’t work. No wonder she is miserable!
Again, it’s a learning experience though. She went in with the intention of learning.
THE FINAL THING I DID (WELL KIND OF)
…was that I tried to help her envision what her life could be if she went after what she wanted and removed this toxic situation from her life.
I am big on visualization because visualization can help you feel what it is like to be your best self. Feeling that can allow you to make better decisions that will get you closer to that goal.
I have to be honest, I don’t actually know if SHE knew that I was trying to do this #lol
HERE IS WHAT I KNOW ABOUT HER
A LOT, BUT LET’S STAY ON THE TOPIC
She is obsessed with style, fashion, health and actually really wants to blog. This girl has a totally different angle as well. She battles Fibromyalgia, she wanted to do bikini modeling, she is head strong and knows discipline like no other, she has great workout tips and an amazing style that just goes right along with her vibe. She has never given up. She is an inspiration. Truly.
She is always talking about how awesome it would be to travel and take pictures and write! That is her passion. To create. To connect with others.
THE POWER OF REMOVING TOXICITY
When you can envision your life without toxicity, you give yourself power. Power to do something about the situation. It almost makes handling the situation easier.
Sometimes, it can be difficult to take that step, but just do it. There isn’t an easy way around it. If you are looking for the easy way out, you are in the wrong community and on the wrong site. You just do it.
You need to remove toxicity in your life in order to be and feel like the best version of yourself, you know?
HOW TO KNOW IF A SITUATION IS TOXIC
Literally Just Ask Yourself…
#1: Do I feel like crap in this situation or around this person?
#2: Have I been progressing towards my goals?
#3: Is this person or situation teaching me something new & valuable that will help me be the best version of myself?
#4: Do I enjoy the company of that person or the situation?
As you begin to remove toxicity ( whether that be situations or people ) you will watch your life transform. Your days transform. Your business transform. Your relationships improve.
I’m all about giving the simple tips and saying it as it is. It’s the little changes and adjustments that we make it life that make up the big picture.
Trust your gut. Trust your instincts and do what you have to do because at the end of the day, the day will end. Or life. You know what I mean.