MILLENNIALS: HOW TO FIGURE OUT LIFE
are you a whiner or a winner?
WHAT PEOPLE DON’T GET
THIS IS DEDICATED TO MILLENNIALS
I’m sitting here on vacation in my hotel room writing. Working. Not at the pool. Not at the beach. I don’t have a margarita in my hand ( although I’ll definitely get one later ) and I’m happy AF.
Do you think I’m crazy?
Like, who goes on vacation to sit in the hotel room and work?
And who TF goes on vacation and doesn’t have a drink or at least a cute bikini on?
Let me let you in on a little secret.
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My philosophy on life is simple.
Be grateful. Give back. Spend time doing what makes you happy. Period.
I don’t go out on the weekends.
It doesn’t make me happy.
I don’t like happy hour.
It doesn’t make me happy.
I don’t do brunch.
It’s not my thing.
I LOVE going on vacation and sitting in the hotel room.
I also LOVE going on vacation, exploring and having FUN!
I work hard.
I give back.
I do what makes me happy.
I have no idea how to explain to my friends time after time that I don’t want to go to happy hour without sounding like a major B.
They tell me I’m missing out on life.
They tell me that it’s what I SHOULD be doing.
Listen, it’s not personal. It’s not them.
It’s my desire to work. It’s my desire to work to give back! That is my PASSION. That is my drive.
I don’t understand going out.
I don’t understand finishing work at 5.
I don’t understand not waking up early.
I don’t judge. I just don’t understand.
There is ZERO judgement here.
Most people don’t understand me. I don't understand most people.
It’s not that I don’t understand, it’s that I don’t understand the “whining” after NOT getting what you want based on decisions YOU chose to make, k?
Enough about me. Let’s talk about YOU. The problem and the solution.
HERE’S THE PROBLEM
I’M TALKING TO THE WHINERS
PROBLEM NUMBER ONE
Sounds harsh, but hear me out.
As a millennial, I see my friends constantly going out, having the time of their lives and then COMPLAINING that they are unhappy.
That they don’t know what they want.
Then they know what they want, but it’s not the right time.
Or they know what they want and it’s unrealistic.
Or they need this class to get what they want, but they don’t have the money.
Or they just don’t have the money to do anything.
EXCUSES MY FRIENDS.
I don’t fucking get it.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with going out, and this has NOTHING to do with going out, but if you are unhappy it is because you aren’t willing to, ready or want to put in the work.
PROBLEM NUMBER TWO
Mom & Dad, sorry for this, but millennials are struggling because of the parents. Overprotective. Solving our problems. Giving us everything and more. Never letting us struggle.
Now, I am grateful for my parents. Yes, I did have everything I needed. Yes, my parents were always there for me. Again, I am grateful.
But, my parents also let me handle my own issues. When parents would call other parents to handle the problems, my parents would let me handle it.
The kids whose parents took care of their problems, don’t know how to handle the struggles they face today, ok?
How to get what you want ( winners )
It’s always easier said than done.
Except I’m doing it, you know?
You have to CHOOSE where you want to focus your energy.
You have to UNDERSTAND that nothing in life comes easy.
You have to REALIZE that doing the things that make you uncomfortable are just as difficult as sitting around feeling like shit because you aren’t where you want to be in life…
It’s called sacrifice.
EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS TOUGH
We aren’t really brought up to handle “tough” situations in life if you know what I mean. I’m really speaking to millennials right now.
THIS IS WHY
We see instant gratification.
That shit doesn’t exist.
We see 20 year olds that are millionaires.
We see private jets.
We see all of these fancy things.
Most millennials aren’t willing to overcome the struggle. Or even fight the struggle to get what they want.
They fear the struggle.
Most millennials have a vision, come up with a plan, start and then there comes the struggle.
Hello fear, goodbye plan.
Oh and hello unhappiness + a job!
We are millennials… no one wants a job. Ew. We want to live our lives on vacation, right? I mean that’s what we see on Instagram, you know?
The way I see it, you have two choices.
To sit on your ass and contemplate what you want because you are fearful of the unknown.
Embrace the struggle and take action.
Stop talking. Start doing.
But start doing what you love.
You can do it on the side.
( a side hustle as we call it today )
You can do it in your own way.
But at the end of the day, you have two choices.
I’m obsessed with writing. It makes me so happy. I’m obsessed with self care. It makes me so happy. I’m obsessed with working. It makes me so happy. I’m obsessed with helping others. It makes me so happy.
When I don’t receive feedback on a post or podcast that I worked REALLY hard on, how do you think I feel?
Do you think I feel good?
I feel like pure shit. But, does that mean I give up? Does that mean that this brand isn’t right for me?
What if after a few months you don’t see much interest in your brand? Does that mean you just give up also?
Passion is everything. Passion will lead you to success if you allow it to. If you keep going.
You need to lower your expectations, have higher standards and learn patience.
Learn to shift your focus to what you love instead of followers. Stop looking at the interest from other people and start putting out your PASSION. CONSISTENTLY.
Results will not happen overnight. It might take you a year, two years or five years, but if you keep pushing for what you want, something is going to happen.
You can’t just stop.
…but here’s the other thing.
When you don’t take action, it is because you are either fearful or you care what other people think. I mean… there are a lot of reasons, but these are two major factors, right?
Our society is SO judgmental.
It’s because of insecurity.
If you REALLY want to be happy and if you REALLY want to be successful in life ( whatever success means to you ), then you have to stop caring.
Stop caring what other people think.
Stop caring what other people are doing.
Stop caring what your friends tell you.
Stop caring what your family tells you.
Stop caring about instant gratification.
Stop caring about failure.
Stop caring about followers.
Stop caring about likes.
Stop caring about losing friends.
Stop caring about missing out.
Stop caring about “what if’s.”
Stop caring about your insecurities.
STOP CARING AND FOCUS.
Focus on what MATTERS.
Focus on your PASSION.
Focus on your PLAN.
Focus on your GOAL.
Focus on EXECUTION.
We are so fearful! We are living in a time of fear!
Where is it getting us?
I am SO beyond sick of my friends being “unhappy” and then sitting on the phone with them for HOURS talking about their potential.
They know they have it!
But they care too much.
That fear is limiting them to reaching their potential.
Our generation is SO sheltered that we are afraid to walk on our own. To go outside of our comfort zone. To do things differently than our friends.
Let’s bring this full circle.
Here I am sitting on vacation, in my hotel room, without a drink, working my ass off since 6 am.
But, I’m so happy!
I love what I’m doing.
I love the grind.
I love putting in the work.
I love the journey.
Don’t get me wrong… I am scared. Yes, I have a successful marketing agency, but my self care + mental health brand is my PASSION. It’s something that I’ve wanted to do my entire life.
I can sit here and begin thinking:
“What if I fail?”
“What if no one cares about what I’m writing?”
“What if I have zero traction one year from now?”
“How long will it take for this brand to become a success?”
“What if it never becomes a success?”
“What if I am wasting time?”
“What if I am wasting money?”
Man… if I thought like that… my life would be entirely different.
I’d be sitting and wondering, “what if?”
Like I always say, I never want to sit on my death bed one day looking back and wondering, “what if?”
Not an option.
So, I have to stop caring.
I have to make sacrifices.
I have to battle my mind everyday to stay disciplined.
There ARE days where I am scared.
There ARE days where I question myself.
I’m not here to preach about this and say that I’m perfect.
But, the difference is that even if I have those thoughts, I let them pass. I keep moving forward. I get back up.
My passion drives me.
I don’t care if someone doesn’t understand. Because I’m happy taking this path!
This is MY life.
So, to all of my friends and family out there who don’t understand why I’m not going out on the weekends, to happy hour, to brunch and drinking by the pool, it’s because I don’t have FOMO. This is what makes me happy.
I am so grateful for my friends.
I am so grateful for my family.
I am so grateful that they care.
But the truth is that I am 100% a misfit and I love that about myself. I might not be understood, but I am finally happy.
I love hanging out with my friends. Just in a more laid back way. I prefer staying in and watching a movie. This is me.
I NEVER want to wonder.
…and wondering feels just as bad as actually doing it. Both are tough.
I want to live a happy life no matter how tough it may be to take a different path.
This is why millennials struggle.
Because of how we were brought up. Because of what we are exposed to on social media. Because of our mindset.
Well, I hope this post encourages you to make a change. If you are looking to make a change. I hope that this post inspires you. I hope that this post challenges your current mindset. I hope that this post makes you want to get out of your comfort zone.