THE TOUGHEST DECISIONS ARE THE BEST DECISIONS
IT’S OK NOT TO HAVE THE ANSWERS
I’ve talked about following your gut feeling and how it will get you closer to what you want. Sometimes following your gut feeling requires you to get uncomfortable and make tough decisions to better your future.
Those tough decisions pay off long term and here’s why.
We can’t always have the answers.
We won’t always have the answers.
We don’t need to have the answers.
We can’t predict the future.
What we can do is make the best possible decisions that are within our control based on what we want in life.
That is how we will reach success, but we have to be willing to “take the hits” along the way.
MAKING THE MOVES
When I first moved to Florida, I was 20 years old. I dropped out of the University of Arizona. Instead of moving home to Chicago, I asked myself, “if I could do anything right now, what would it be?”
I gave myself 5 seconds to answer the question to minimize any hesitation and get to the root of my gut feeling.
The answer as many of you know was to move to Miami Beach by myself.
HERE’S WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW
Making that decision and making that move was the easy part.
When I moved down to Florida, my parents gave me about a week to figure out what I was doing and to get a job. I even had a return flight booked to come back home to Chicago in case I didn’t make it happen.
Listen… I dropped out of college and they wanted to make sure that I wasn’t moving to Miami to mess around.
So, I get to Florida.
I landed a job that day.
I didn’t apply for jobs prior to moving down.
WHAT I DID
I printed out my resume.
I went to an area that had lots of cute clothing boutiques.
Went from shop to shop to introduce myself for a couple of hours.
Then, someone hired me on the spot after I had handed out about 20 resumes in person.
Some people might say it was lucky, but I was determined. I wasn’t stopping until I got a job that week.
Now, here I am with a job at 20 years old in Florida on my own.
That STILL wasn’t the tough part.
SIDE NOTE: When I moved down to Florida, I lived with my grandparents for a couple of weeks while I looked for an apartment.
…back to the story…
Then I found that apartment. This was my first apartment where I lived by myself. I was so excited that I was making it all happen. It was exactly what I wanted. I had a job. I was in Florida. I had my own apartment. I felt pretty proud. The papers were signed and it was move-in day.
BATTLING TOUGH DECISIONS
THIS IS WHERE I BEGAN TO STRUGGLE
It was move-in day and I went to check out my new apartment. I walked in and cried. I literally sat down on the floor and cried.
I began to think that this was the biggest mistake. I started to question what I was doing. I got really scared.
That’s when I had to start making tough decisions.
When you are pursuing what you want, it’s exciting. It’s new. It’s motivating.
That’s what was happening to me.
It’s almost as if everything was going “too” well, you know?
As much as I cried, and as much as I questioned what TF I was doing, I moved myself into that new apartment INSTEAD of running away.
I KNEW that if I wanted to create this life that I had always dreamed of, I needed to get uncomfortable.
The tough decision was to stay put and keep moving forward.
My gut feeling kept telling me that I was doing the right thing. When I thought of booking a flight and moving back home, I would get this horrible feeling telling me NOT to go home. I would get the feeling that I would regret it.
Would it have been easier to get on a plane? YES!
Was that the right decision for me? NO!
No matter how bad I felt. No matter how alone I felt. No matter how depressed and anxious I was, I powered through.
PERSPECTIVE: LET’S FAST FORWARD
5 YEARS LATER ( today ) …
I am so grateful to live on the beach in Miami.
I am the proud owner of a marketing agency.
I became closer with family members.
I grew as a person beyond what I ever thought was possible.
I never would have thought that 5 years ago… sitting in that apartment… that I would be where I am today. I had a GUT FEELING, but I didn’t have any answers.
The truth is that I made the tough decisions to stick it out, to keep pushing and to keep pursuing because I knew in my heart that this was my path.
It was TOUGH to stay in Florida in those moments of despair.
It was TOUGH to live on my own.
It was TOUGH to start my own marketing agency.
It was TOUGH not to run when I got scared.
But… if it was easy, then wouldn’t everyone be doing it?
Really think about that. Making tough decisions to get us closer to what we want requires us to become uncomfortable so that we GROW!
LET ME TELL YOU A STORY.
I remember I went out one night with a couple of girls that I knew in Florida. They had been living in South Florida for a few years. One of the girls was telling me that moving to Florida was the best decision that she had ever made.
Florida had always been my happy place. We would go every Winter break to visit family. I loved the palm trees and the beach. I ASSUMED that moving there was for me.
BUT - in that moment, when that girl told me that it was the best decision that she had ever made… I couldn’t understand WHY.
Yet, I stayed put.
WHY THE TOUGHEST DECISIONS ARE THE BEST DECISIONS
What you have to realize is that you may feel uncomfortable along your journey. You may have to make decisions that you aren’t “thrilled” with in the moment. The journey might not go as you had planned, and that’s ok! That’s why it’s called a journey.
You also have to realize that if you make those tough decisions with what you want long term in mind, you’ll get there.
…and it will be more rewarding than you could ever imagine.
The tough decisions may be the best decisions of your life.
What I want you to do is what I did.
Stop seeing them as tough decisions. Start seeing them as routes on your journey. Routes that are paved based on your goals. The road that you thought would lead to success might have a detour. Take the detour.