FAILURE: HOW TO EMBRACE IT TO BECOME SUCCESSFUL
HOW WE SEE FAILURE
+ WHERE IT STEMS FROM
When we think of failure, we typically think of the negative, right?
Because something went wrong.
Because something didn’t work out.
Because we were let down.
Getting punished for not doing well on a project.
Being judged based on a test score.
Then, that failure begins to fester into anxiety when it comes to…
ACT + SAT scores.
Failing a college course.
Not getting a job that we want.
BUT LET ME ASK YOU SOMETHING
What happens when we get into the real world and we get fired?
What happens when we get into the real world and we make a mistake at work that affects a client?
What happens when we get into the real world and a relationship doesn’t work out?
We are so unbelievably hard on ourselves because of these “failures.”
The problem is that we are so FOCUSED on the “failure” that we dismiss the fact that it’s a learning lesson and punish ourselves.
WHAT YOU’RE FORGETTING
FAILURE IS THE BEST LESSON OF THEM ALL
We had to choose a topic to speak about. I chose failure. My mindset growing up was a bit different than my peers. I never saw bad grades as a failure. I never saw a bad test score as a failure.
Did I feel bad when I received it? Yes.
But, that form of failure didn’t cause me to be afraid of failing. Maybe that’s because my parents never punished me for it. Maybe that’s because I never actually “tried” in school. I just never believed that a test score or a bad grade determined your worth. I didn’t see it as a failure.
To me, NOT trying is a failure.
I want you to ask yourself this question: what happens in your mind after a failure?
Think about it.
Do you quit whatever it is that you are doing and stop trying?
Do you change around your life?
Do you get back up and keep moving forward?
People forget that we learn the MOST when we fail.
HERE’S A GOOD ANALOGY
It’s like dating. It’s common to see relationships that don’t work out as a failure.
But, what that’s really called… IS DATING!
You go through a bunch of people until you find the person that’s right for you. You learn what you like and what you don’t like.
Let’s say you failed a test in school. Obviously you didn’t understand the concept, which means you now know what you need to learn. If you didn’t fail that test, you wouldn’t know where you were struggling or the area to focus on, you know?
What if you made a mistake at work and sent over the wrong documents to your boss? ( made up scenario ) Well, you learned to double check your email before sending. This taught you awareness.
As cliche and overused as this is, if life were SO easy, then everyone would be a huge success.
The only way to learn is to fail.
Otherwise, what’s the point in education? If we don’t know something, we have to learn it!
It’s like a baby learning to walk. First you crawl, then you attempt to walk, then you fall, then you walk and then one day you run! How can a little baby just KNOW how to walk? Maybe there is one out there that is talented, but you usually fall a couple of times before you get the hang of it, right?
HOW TO EMBRACE FAILURE
THE HIDDEN SECRET
“If you’ve never failed, you’ve never tried anything new.” - Albert Einstein
There is no secret, ok? Failure needs to be seen as a positive. I love to celebrate my failures! As crazy as this might sound, I rarely celebrate my successes. Am I proud of my successes? Of course!
But, when I fail, I’d rather treat myself to a nice steak dinner because that failure taught me something that will take me to the next level either in my career or life!
PICTURE THIS SITUATION
Maybe I made a mistake in how I communicated to a friend. I might have texted something that should have been said over the phone, right?
So, what happens?
They call me and tell me how it came across. Now that I’m aware of that mistake, I can improve it so that I can communicate efficiently. If it weren’t for me welcoming that communication mistake, I would either be hard on myself, super defensive ( which doesn’t get us anywhere ) or repeat the mistake.
I embrace failure by celebrating it.
By seeing it as a step FORWARD instead of backward. The more that I fail, the more that I learn. The more that I learn, the closer I am to getting what I want in life and business.
Feeling happy and fulfilled. That’s the goal for most of us, right? Trying to live a life that we love!
Well, in order to get to that point, we have to work for it.
We have to work on our skills.
We need to work on our craft.
We need to go after what we love.
We need to work on our relationships.
We need to work on ourselves.
Work on our mindset.
During this process, we are bound to encounter a mistake or two. But, if it weren’t for that mistake, then we wouldn’t know how to improve! Once we improve something, we move forward instead of remaining in the same place.
Understand that failure is temporary.
Avoiding failure is the biggest failure of them all because you are throwing away opportunities and time.
You aren’t trying anything new! You aren’t growing. You aren’t achieving your goals. When you avoid failure, then failure WILL last forever. But, if you welcome a failure, learn from a failure and grow from a failure, that failure is temporary! You can move on from it.
In order to achieve success in life or business, you need to be willing to fail.
That is what it truly means to embrace failure. The willingness, determination and perseverance it takes to go after what you want despite failure is how you become successful.
Fail a lot. Fail often. Avoiding failure leads to a life long battle of failing. Embrace what knocks you down and get back up. Learn from what goes wrong. Celebrate what goes wrong. Because failure is the best teacher of them all. Failure teaches us how to get to the next level. Failure teaches us how to improve ourselves. Failure teaches us what we don’t know in order to live a life that we find fulfilling.
ARE YOU HOLDING YOURSELF BACK?