5 WAYS TO CREATE THE LIFE YOU WANT
I’ve had quite a few wakeup calls over the last 8 months.
The first one happened after my grandfather passed away. The second one happened after my cousin lost her battle to cancer and passed away. The third one happened on my birthday last month when I lost my dog, Cooper.
These are major life events that most of us experience at one point, and to be honest, it opened my eyes to what I really wanted. It also opened my eyes to what I wasn’t doing. It made me realize that when people say “life is short,” it really is.
As I get older ( & I’m only 25 ) the days go by faster and faster. It’s quite scary if we are being real. I go to bed each night and feel like I had just woken up.
It’s so easy for us to tell ourselves “I’ll do it tomorrow” or turn away opportunities in the moment because we forget that life is temporary.
Doesn’t it just feel like “death can’t happen to me?” I mean, we all know that we are going to eventually die one day. It’s inevitable, but we don’t acknowledge it, therefore, we make decisions as if our life is going to go on forever.
These major life events that have happened over the last few months have really made me question my life.
Am I happy?
Am I going after what I REALLY want?
Am I doing enough?
Will I look back and regret anything?
Is what I’m doing now really right for me?
Am I good at what I do?
Should I be doing something more fulfilling?
What if I go after what I want and nobody listens?
I realized that my life can literally end tomorrow, and what do I have to lose if I start going after what I really want. Because I have A LOT to lose if I don’t.
About 5 years ago, I quit my job doing marketing for a Real Estate agency in Miami Beach and took the risk to start my own marketing firm. I was 20 years old and went in with the “what do I have to lose” mentality.
That mentality has allowed me to work for myself over the last 5 years.
That mentality has allowed me to financially support myself.
That mentality has allowed me to travel the world because I can work from my computer.
That mentality has allowed me full creative control.
That mentality has lead me to a few failures.
That mentality has lead me to major success.
That mentality made me feel like I was hit by a bus.
That mentality educated me.
That mentality got me an oceanfront condo.
That mentality isolated me.
That mentality has challenged me.
That mentality is helping me build my dreams.
The key to having that mentality is not to quit. You can’t quit when you have a tough day. You can’t quit the second you start to struggle. You can’t quit when you are unsure. You have to power through those days.
Creating the life that YOU want takes a lot of effort.
A lot of self-confidence, a lot of perseverance and a lot of passion. It isn’t easy and it won’t be easy, but I can promise you that it is absolutely fulfilling.
…but where do you start?
Starting is the most difficult part, and I’m going to share how I created AND how I am still creating the life that I want.
I HATE EXCUSES
We all make them. But, making an excuse for something that you SHOULD be doing is setting yourself up for defeat. I’m not about that, ok?
The most common excuses that we have when it comes to creating the future that we want are:
Whenever I get stuck in life, whether it is a personal situation or business, the first thing that I do is write. I am obsessed with writing. I have started about 5 blogs in the last 5 years and this is the only one that I have actually pursued. Crazy, right?
I mean, if I would have followed through with my passion 5 years ago, imagine where I would have been by now? That’s called fear.
I was afraid that people would judge my content.
I was afraid that no one would read my content.
I was afraid that I wouldn’t be successful with a blog.
I was afraid that my content wouldn’t matter.
I was afraid that the industry was just too saturated.
I was afraid of how bad I’d feel if I failed.
The wakeup calls that I’ve recently faced have changed that mentality. Of course I still have fears, but the difference is that I don’t listen to them. The second I listen to them is the second that I doubt myself.
I realized that my biggest regret in life would be NOT to try. I’d feel worse NOT trying than failing.
This is a big one for a lot of people especially if you are working a full time job. Bring on the side hustle. I’m really into this thing called time management. Maybe you’ve heard of it. You need to find ways to make time.
Wake up 30 minutes earlier. Stay up 30 minutes later.
Stay in on a Saturday night.
Stay in on a weekend.
Skip that trip.
If you really want something, but have a time constraint, find ways to make the time. It might take you longer to reach your goal. So what? As long as you are making progress every day, you WILL reach your goal.
Having the finances to go off and do what you want in life. Like I said, no excuses. Do what you have to do.
If you have to work part time or even full time until you have enough saved, then do it. You don’t need to quit your job right away. Creating what you want in life takes time!
I actually didn’t quit my job at the Real Estate company until I had my first client. Once I had my first client, I quit and made my marketing agency into a full time career.
You have to make smart decisions. You can’t just quit your current job if you aren’t in the position. Keep your job ( or get another one that works better for you ) until you have the means to quit. OR, until your new business or life path allows you to quit.
MAKE A LIST
Before I started my marketing agency, I was making $25,000/year working a full time marketing job for a Real Estate company in Miami Beach.
I showed up to work early, usually left late, worked weekends, vacations, lead company meetings + interviewed new agents even though that wasn’t even in my job description.
My salary didn’t even cover my living expenses.
I was fortunate enough to have saved and thought of my job as a learning experience, as I never completed college.
As time went on, I realized that I wanted to take that next step. The company refused to give me a raise and I had to make a decision.
One night, I sat down, grabbed my journal and wrote down my strengths and my weaknesses. I also wrote down all of the things that I loved to do, ok?
To be honest, the next step was obvious after looking at that list.
I wanted to be creative
I wanted to be my own boss
I wanted to have multiple streams of income
I wanted to work from wherever I wanted
I enjoyed social media
I enjoyed writing
I enjoyed taking photos
I enjoyed generating leads
I enjoyed sales
I enjoyed learning about different businesses
I love helping people
I love sharing ideas
I love sharing what I know
I enjoyed graphic design
With my experience, a marketing agency made sense. A blog was still in the back of my mind, but for some reason, I didn’t take it seriously until now.
Did I ever doubt myself with the marketing agency?
Not really actually. Because I had that no excuses mentality even before my major life events. What did I have to lose? I either went after that, or I found another job and that didn’t excite me.
CREATE A STRATEGY
So, after you write this list, you have an idea of a few potential career opportunities. You need to create a game plan otherwise it just becomes absolutely overwhelming, you know? And then nothing gets done.
I created a business plan. I wrote down everything that needed to get done and then broke it done into achievable goals.
I needed a business name
I needed an LLC
I needed a website
I needed social media
I needed a logo
I needed brochures
I needed a strategy for getting clients
I needed a services menu
I needed A LOT. I just wanted to share an example.
To make this easy, I went one by one and broke it down. I took one thing at a time. When it was broken down into little attainable goals, I was not only able to achieve them quicker, but it wasn’t overwhelming. It was a lot of fun to build this.
CREATE A WHY JOURNAL
When you have your own business, or you start to create your own path in life it’s empowering. It’s exciting. You get to do things your way! Cool, you know?
But then, you hit a road block. You get stuck. You are challenged. You face a failure. Then you want to give up.
…not so fast!
If you truly want to create the life that you ACTUALLY want to live, expect some struggle. Totally normal, ok? Something that helps me is to have a why journal.
Ok, in this journal I literally write down my reasons as to WHY I am doing this.
Can I be honest? Having a “why” is talked about a lot. It’s very important, but you can have more than one reason! So, I created an entire journal dedicated to that why.
Why I’m doing this
Who I am doing this for
What I am going to do when I achieve these goals
This is something that I refer to when I get stuck. When I face these challenges. When I’m in a rut.
There will never be a right time. I’m sure you’ve heard that one before. Sometimes, you just have to go for it!
You can’t think about it and the only way to actually get what you want is to just do it. One step at a time.
The other thing is that on your path to creating the life you want, if you find that you are unhappy ( over a long period of time ) and just feel that it isn’t for you, that is OK!
Here I spent the last 5 years building a marketing agency ( where I am still the CEO ), but at times feel unfulfilled.
In my down time and in during my time of struggle, I always turn to my blog.
While I am absolutely grateful for what I have built, and worked extremely hard to create it, my blog has become my outlet. My fulfilling piece. My stress reliever. My happiness, and I hope that it adds tremendous value to the lives of others just as it does for mine.
The thing is that without action, you won’t see results, and without results, you remain in the same place. If you want to create a fulfilling life, you just need to take action. One thing always leads to another and you just don’t know where you will end up, got it?
While I felt at the time that the marketing agency was right for me, I’ve realized that I have a real passion for blogging and others are benefitting from this resource I’ve build.
Who would have thought?
YOU JUST KNOW
I am a big believer that deep down, whether you want to admit it or not, you just know. You know what you enjoy. You know what’s right for you. You might not believe in yourself, but you know.
The best thing that you can do right now is to take that first step. It’s always the most difficult, yet the most rewarding. Take it and run with it because you never know what tomorrow will bring.
With that, I’m going to take a hot shower and watch Velvet on Netflix. Is anyone else obsessed with binge watching TV shows? It’s my new thing.